I just left a Facebook group that focuses strongly on using Neville Goddard’s teachings to manifest a relationship with a specific person. It doesn’t bother me when someone wants to attract a specific person. I know it can be done, and often is done. I also know that the clinging with insistence to one person, and not allowing yourself to see that it is first not the person, but the happiness, that you actually want, is a limiting concept that brings up desperate rage from those looking to do just that.
I’ve been in those shoes. I know what it is like to think “This man or no man.” Guess what. It wasn’t that man. That’s not because I was just wrong about the man. It was because I was living a life of melancholy in my imagination, and longing for that man was exactly what I had manifested in my feeling state. When I THEN opened myself to the feeling of truly living in the end… in the state of that happy relationship… a man who WASN’T that man came along and knocked the ball out of the park with our experiences together. I had been keeping this intensely wonderful relationship blocked from my experience because I was BEING the person who was longing for something I did not have. My I AM was keeping me in a state of having not, and my clinging to someone who I wanted to insist was the one… was a perfect match for that state.
Now, I’m not saying your man or woman is not the one. Yours may very well be the one who walks into your life in that perfect feeling when you simply enter the state of having that which you have desired. What I’d like to suggest is to hold lightly to the person and rejoice in the way they make you FEEL. Rejoice in a beautiful relationship for the sake of the satisfaction of it. Rejoice in being in that state, and when someone says “what if he’s not the one?” don’t throw yourself to the ground and defend yourself or feel the need to prove yourself or feel anything less than wonderful. Be light about it. When you are sure of your happiness in this relationship you have imagined, nothing will throw you off from it. You know your ideal man or woman is yours. There is no threat, and there is no fear of “this man or no man.”
Below I have included an excerpt from Neville Goddard on insisting on a specific person. You can have anything you want, and know what what you actually want is happiness.
…Always go to the end. Dwell in the end, and you will hurt no one. But if you try to devise the means, you are, well, messing the whole thing up. I have had people say to me, “You know, I want that man, and no other man.”
I said, “No, you don’t; you want to be happily married. You don’t want that man or no man.”
“Oh, yes, that man or no man.”
Then, of course, this always shocks them.
I say, “If he dropped dead right now, would you want to be married?”
“Well, he isn’t going to drop…”
“I didn’t ask you that. If he dropped dead right now, or if he is right this very moment accused of being the world’s greatest thief or murderer, do you still want him”
“Well, now, why ask those questions, Neville? I want that man.”
But, you see, it isn’t that man. They want to be happily married. I have gone to so many weddings where it was either that man or none, and it wasn’t “that man”! And they are embarrassed when they see me standing in the aisle, because it had to be “that man or no man,” and here it isn’t that man at all. And they walk down [the aisle] – they are happy with their new mate, but a little sheepish as they pass by because they know I know he was not the man.