I just left a Facebook group that focuses strongly on using Neville Goddard’s teachings to manifest a relationship with a specific person. It doesn’t bother me when someone wants to attract a specific person. I know it can be done, and often is done. I also know that the clinging with insistence to one person, and not allowing yourself to see that it is first not the person, but the happiness, that you actually want, is a limiting concept that brings up desperate rage from those looking to do just that.
I’ve been in those shoes. I know what it is like to think “This man or no man.” Guess what. It wasn’t that man. That’s not because I was just wrong about the man. It was because I was living a life of melancholy in my imagination, and longing for that man was exactly what I had manifested in my feeling state. When I THEN opened myself to the feeling of truly living in the end… in the state of that happy relationship… a man who WASN’T that man came along and knocked the ball out of the park with our experiences together. I had been keeping this intensely wonderful relationship blocked from my experience because I was BEING the person who was longing for something I did not have. My I AM was keeping me in a state of having not, and my clinging to someone who I wanted to insist was the one… was a perfect match for that state.
Now, I’m not saying your man or woman is not the one. Yours may very well be the one who walks into your life in that perfect feeling when you simply enter the state of having that which you have desired. What I’d like to suggest is to hold lightly to the person and rejoice in the way they make you FEEL. Rejoice in a beautiful relationship for the sake of the satisfaction of it. Rejoice in being in that state, and when someone says “what if he’s not the one?” don’t throw yourself to the ground and defend yourself or feel the need to prove yourself or feel anything less than wonderful. Be light about it. When you are sure of your happiness in this relationship you have imagined, nothing will throw you off from it. You know your ideal man or woman is yours. There is no threat, and there is no fear of “this man or no man.”
Below I have included an excerpt from Neville Goddard on insisting on a specific person. You can have anything you want, and know what what you actually want is happiness.
…Always go to the end. Dwell in the end, and you will hurt no one. But if you try to devise the means, you are, well, messing the whole thing up. I have had people say to me, “You know, I want that man, and no other man.”
I said, “No, you don’t; you want to be happily married. You don’t want that man or no man.”
“Oh, yes, that man or no man.”
Then, of course, this always shocks them.
I say, “If he dropped dead right now, would you want to be married?”
“Well, he isn’t going to drop…”
“I didn’t ask you that. If he dropped dead right now, or if he is right this very moment accused of being the world’s greatest thief or murderer, do you still want him”
“Well, now, why ask those questions, Neville? I want that man.”
But, you see, it isn’t that man. They want to be happily married. I have gone to so many weddings where it was either that man or none, and it wasn’t “that man”! And they are embarrassed when they see me standing in the aisle, because it had to be “that man or no man,” and here it isn’t that man at all. And they walk down [the aisle] – they are happy with their new mate, but a little sheepish as they pass by because they know I know he was not the man.
Will power: the strength to not eat that doughnut, to not cut corners, to get off the couch and move your body, to get that to-do list checked off. The power to resist and act, to control and refrain. To take action on the right things and cut out the action on the “no-nos”. When you have will power, you are great at controlling your ACTIONS. Right? 🤔
Hmmmm, but that’s not true. That’s not what will power actually IS. No wonder so many of us struggle, running around in circles and feeling guilty about how weak we are when it comes to good old “will power”.
There’s great news, my dears. The only way to have will power that is of true value to you is to acknowledge the one and only will- the will of the mind and imagination. Don’t get this all wrong though… that doesn’t mean there isn’t ever struggle in it. Oh man, sometimes it feels like a daunting task, and oddly enough, only because we give ourselves such a hard time about letting ourselves feel the feeling of the wish fulfilled. That is why Neville Goddard said to persevere; to remain in a assumption. The only struggle there might ever be is within yourself. If you are struggling to not eat that doughnut, or to get that task done or to get in shape… it is FAR from truth that the actual ACTION is where your weak point is. The first cause is always mental. The cause for your physical wellbeing, your financial prosperity, your interpersonal relationship happiness is what you are imagining day in and day out. That is what is setting you up for success or failure. That is what causes your impulses. Your disinterest in taking action that you logically know you should be taking in order to accomplish anything is only rooted in your concept of self.
If you think that will power is about training your actions, then you will have a much harder time getting only a fraction of your desired results. The actions should come with natural ease and no effort will come close to the work that the imagination does.
Practice reacquainting yourself with what will power is, and you will spend more time enjoying the unfolding of your manifestations.
A holiday like New Year’s seems to have personal development written all over it. The resolutions. The goals. The visions. While this is an opportunity to take a look at where we are and where we would like to be, a New Year is not so different from every other day… well… every other moment, even. What if we felt about any moment the way we feel about the freshness and newness of a new year?
Guess what? It really is exactly that. Every moment is new. Every single moment is new, a fresh start, a clean slate. It is even more new than we think a new year is.
There is only one reason why New Year’s resolutions tend to lack in results, and it’s not laziness or lack of dedication. Laziness is only a symptom of not being in the state desired. If you have not felt yourself to be the you who has already accomplished a resolution, then all kinds of things will show up as “reasons” why your “resolution” didn’t stick. When your vibration is not aligned with the result, then all the will power in the world will not bring you to it. You can try to force yourself to eat better, exercise more, advance in work, write that book, make more friends, not have certain friends, learn a language, play an instrument, practice a sport, do more to be of service, etc. etc. etc. but until you SEE YOURSELF AS the person who is doing those things… FEEL YOURSELF AS that person… you will struggle and be frustrated and possibly feel like a failure.
The truth is, resolutions (and keeping them) are not one bit a question of failure or success as a human being… it is about loyalty to the unseen reality. It is about your chosen I AM. Your words (and thoughts… words are spoken thought) are self-fulfilling prophesy. You may THINK you are committed, but commitment doesn’t feel like a force or even a passion. It feels like a natural state of your new I AM. It feels like getting acquainted feelingly with the new man… the new version of you, who is already experiencing that which you wish to be, do, have.
Change your I AM and your resolution will manifest with ease and naturalness. The only struggle can be found in deciding who you are and not identifying with the old you who “does not follow through” or “is just overweight” or “is well-meaning but things just don’t work out for”. Some perseverance will take you through that struggle and the rest of the work is not yours. You will do whatever is required without even knowing what you are doing… you will find yourself in the right place at the right time as the new you… in what feels like no time at all.
Happy New Year to you and yours.
There’s an elephant in the room, and he’s only visible in between your sessions of reading and listening to Neville.
While you’re absorbing Neville Goddard’s teachings – revelling in it, being soothed by it – this elephant is nowhere to be found. Everything is clear. Everything is apparent: what you need to do, how you can do it, and the infinite potential – no, the INEVITABILITY- of your desires to be made manifest in this physical experience.
Then, we close that book or click away from that audio lecture and the blur returns. The interference- the reasoning. Even when we think we are changed… even when we THINK we are being that “new man”… we revert back to our old self, only with a “more positive outlook”.
What just happened? Where did the conviction go? Where is the basic, natural feeling of already being that which you wish? We go along our way and we think that we have changed, but there is an elephant in the room and that elephant is the truth that we have not actually changed. We have only hoped. We have seen for a moment who we truly are, and have again moulded into the common man… we are merely hearers of the word and not doers, for we have seen ourselves in the mirror, walked away and at once forgotten who we really are. We know the elephant is there. We do a really good job of pretending he’s not… we even ask others, “What am I doing wrong? Which technique do I need? Why isn’t this working?” Oh, but the answer is right there. We are forgetting who we are- the new man. We are standing as the old man, the teachings of Neville a blur, a distant text-book lesson. We have not entered the new state without looking back. We have not simply done it.
There is an answer, and you can turn to it every time. Every single time, this will get you back to being the new man… this is BRAZEN IMPUDENCE!
It is incredibly brazen to assume you are that which you wish to be. It is painful sometimes. It is an emotional battle sometimes. It is so far from what we ALLOW ourselves to feel, that it feels impossible – but it is not! It is COMPLETELY possible, and not only that, but it is inevitable if only we have that boldness- that impudence to common reasoning! This is no time to be modest! You are God in physical form!
At the risk of being that super enthusiastic person in the room going on and on about why something is the BEST EVER, I present to you Neville Goddard’s Your Faith Is Your Fortune as being possibly HIS BEST WORK EVER. Now, I’ll admit that I’ve felt that way about pretty much every work of his… whether it’s the first or tenth time I’m reading it. For the past month or two, it’s been this particular book of his- and every line in it is a star. It’s the source I’m quoting from most often, the source I’m turning to in my personal time for winding down along with a cup of tea or a bar of good chocolate. It is soothing, it is reassuring, it is practical, it is like a blanket that wraps you in its comfort.
When someone asks me which book is a good starter for Neville Goddard newbies, I have tended to point them towards The Power of Awareness. I stand by that piece of advice. Of course, everyone will have their own favorite to start with. I had been wondering if Your Faith Is Your Fortune could possibly win over my recommendation as the preferred “first” Neville book, but I think ultimately this one just stands alone and will find you at the right time.
Some come into Neville’s teachings from a religious background, while others come to his work from no previous education on the bible. The beauty is, neither is an advantage nor a disadvantage. Some love that he refers to the bible, and some just go along with the bible references as an extra component that happens to line up with the Law. It doesn’t really matter. One thing for sure is that if you have any problem with the word “God”, or negative associations with the bible, then you will probably not recieve Neville’s message clearly. You will be distracted. HOWEVER, with the perseverence he himself teaches, if the core of his message speaks to you, then you will quickly forget those associations and they will no longer distract from the message.
This wasn’t meant to be a synopsis of the book, but a spotlight on its purity, directness, and astonishing practicality. If you love Neville already, have read a couple other of his books, or maybe have only listened to some lectures, you will most likely love this book and keep it near and dear. Powerful truths come through simplicity, and Neville’s books are as clear and simple as it comes. Sometimes we’re looking for solutions to complex problems, and sometimes for a book to wind down with… and the answers to both types of wishes will always lie within the pages of Neville books, Your Faith Is Your Fortune being one of them that does not cease to amaze me in concept and in use.
Have a lovely week!
My wishes have been externalizing at super speed with super ease lately. Some of these things would be seen as small and some as pretty substantial! Along with that string of current events, I’ve been noticing that some of the things I deliberately manifest are also showing up in my dreams. I thought this is a perfect opportunity to get a little bit into what dreams mean, and what they are in terms of the law of attraction and manifesting.
Dreams are manifestations of our thoughts and feelings – in dream state. If you have been wanting something or some experience and it comes to you in your deeam state, then celebrate it and acknowledge that it is starting to show up for you. If your dream was not a preferred experience, then celebrate its opposite, which is your preferred experience. It is an opportunity to revise your inner conversations, and along with it, your vibration on the subject.
You will see dreams you are in alignment with and you will remember them when you are in alignment with it. This is probably why we do not remember most of our dreams… we are just not in alignment with it most of the time, like anything else we may or may not be a match to. Even memories come to us when we are a match to that memory. It shows us what we are doing in terms of feeling- even when we may not have noticed it before.
Dreams can seem like a surreal experience, and something they seem so real that it can be strange to wake up and realize it was a dream. The only thing to keep in mind when it comes to the dream state and what you see and FEEL in it, is that it is a type of “reality”… a state where you are working with the same thoughts and feelings as in this waking state. Ultimately, YOU in your own CONSCIOUSNESS will decide how to respond to your dream state experiences, and it will absolutely give you an edge over thinking that dreams just happen randomly. Revise the dreams you didn’t enjoy, and celebrate the ones you DID enjoy… and continue to linger in that feeling until it manifests in your waking state.
Best to you this week and never hesitate to comment or email with your questions or stories. Thank you for being part of the Manifest With Armine community!
For years, I’ve had this blog space and it has been often an afterthought- if any thought! I have been giving much of my intention to working with people one on one, creating content for my YouTube channel Manifest With Armine, and navigating my way through social media feeds and groups, while this little gem had been left in the rough. Once in a while, I have posted some of my YouTube uploads here, but I want to give more love to this website.
It seems with all the platforms around, we jump from one to another, so this would be a perfect place for it all to come together for me. It would be wonderful to organize one main site from which my viewers, readers, friends can come to one spot and find all the information I have been putting out into the universe- both the free stuff and the services, too.
With that said, you will be seeing more of me here and I would just LOVE to hear what you want more of… what do you want to learn more about? What do you need help with right now? What type of law of attraction questions are lingering for you that could get nipped in the bud once and for all? Also, let me know what you are looking for from me… do you want to know about my upcoming law of attraction courses? Interested in joining the upcoming law of attraction membership site? Do you want more Neville Goddard tutorials? More on Abraham Hicks? Tell me all about what you want to see here!
I look forward to seeing you here and learning more about how I can serve you on your journey of better understanding and applying the practical use of all things regarding the law of attraction, imagination, faith, the subconscious mind, etc. etc. etc.!
I spoke with Lindell yesterday, who was a student of Neville Goddard. If you’ve seen his few videos on YouTube, you’ll recognize him from his smile and patient teachings. If you enjoy this video about my conversation with Lindell, subscribe to my channel to receive notifications for more on Lindell. He has given me permission to post his own complete audio lectures for you … Read More Lindell, Neville Goddard’s Student!
“Self love- you need to practice self love.” Now when someone comes at you with this, and you don’t particularly see yourself as a self-hating loner, it doesn’t seem like that’s the answer. Self love is this elusive thing that is put out there as if we either have it or we don’t… is it even something you have or do or… hmmm. This can get sticky.
It’s not something you are or aren’t doing, it’s not something you have or don’t have. Self love is a feeling, a state. A conviction that feels like ease. It’s not about defending your rights, about your worth, about your past and how it has psychologically affected you. Now I’m not one to say hey, self love’s not important in manifesting something. It’s part of it. However, if you don’t “have self love”, you’re still manifesting… and taking a look at your circumstances is a tell-tale sign of what you are doing in the vibrational association with self-love. It’s not meant to be much more complicated than that, and getting overwhelmed with emotion around the subject can tend to bring the need for complexity with it. “If it’s such an important part of my life – if I feel so strongly about it – then it is complicated.” Boom. Before you know it, you’ve justified something having to be hard when it’s not. Oh but it will be, because you have “baptized” it so.
So, don’t worry about self-love. That doesn’t mean don’t practice it… it means exactly what I wrote: don’t WORRY about it. Instead, give yourself a break. For the love of self.