It sounds like a deeply spiritual and mystical concept. Something you might nod to as to say “yes, that’s so profound”. Yet, to do that would be overlooking the basis of the statement that Neville used in his teachings.
It’s not just a mysterious, abstract concept. It is an immensely practical piece of information that – when understood – is a tool that will allow you to navigate successfully through all of life’s experiences. Everyone is you pushed out.
The basis of this saying is that there are no others. Nobody is completely separate from you. Nobody exists in your experience separate from your awareness. Your awareness is what draws your experiences, and what we perceive as others are actually serving as messengers- showing us in a fantastically practical way, who we are conscious of being.
As soon as we are hurt, upset, angered, even delighted by the words or actions of another, that is the ideal time to stop for a moment and know that there ARE NO OTHERS except as messengers of who we are being. Every word uttered to you by “another” is some reflection from your state of consciousness – your vibrational frequency – and it is an opportunity to change your feeling state and enter the one you prefer instead.
Use this to your advantage, because that is what it is for. If someone keeps behaving in a hurtful way to you, that means you have identified with being hurt. It means you were conscious of being hurt and not being treated kindly. This is why Neville quoted the bible verse, “forgive them father for they know not what they do”. Everybody in your life is acting upon impulse reflecting to you who you are conscious of being. Even if they want to be kind, it will be not possible for them because of your assumption. This is how cycles occur. You judge based on the message rather than using the message to choose something else within you.
You can change only yourself, then others will reflect your change in consciousness. Neville’s words were not meant to just sound spiritual, but to be used in a very, very practical sense. It is all this simple.
I used to have a bitter relationship with receiving flowers – more specifically, I would get upset that I didn’t really get flowers. Ok, ok – now, I’m not a diva or anything like that, but I must have had a strong desire to be gifted flowers and I was really aware of not having being the recipient of them very much! You can say that when I saw flowers anywhere, I had that association in the back of my mind (an awareness) that “I never get flowers”.
A few years ago, I was visiting my sister’s house and as I walked in, I noticed a fresh arrangement of flowers in the foyer. This is a common occurrence, because they go to many events and come home with various arrangements from the events. I can’t remember right now what flowers they were this particular day, but in that moment, I was in so much appreciation of their beauty that I told myself “these flowers were here for me to enjoy”. That’s exactly how I felt, and that’s what I confirmed to myself and forgot about them. A couple hours later while still at my sister’s house, I got a call from an unfamiliar number. It turned out to be a local florist checking on my home address for a delivery. I though hmmm… ok. I was able to have them deliver to my sister’s place since I wasn’t going to be home for a bit longer. Mind you, I had completely forgotten about my previous rendezvous with the flowers in the foyer.
The delivery came and it was a beautiful arrangement of flowers from my boyfriend, who did not have the habit of buying flowers and whom I had not even spoken to that day. It came with a letter he wrote out for me. Well… I felt appreciative of flowers that were there for me to appreciate and a bouquet with my name on it and a love letter followed.
Being grouchy and having negative associations with anything keeps the thing desired out of our lives. Without alignment of being the recipient of it, we cannot be that. Man can receive that which he sees himself receiving. When flowers mattered to me only because I felt like I didn’t have them or couldn’t get them… when I felt like they weren’t for me – they weren’t. The moment I felt appreciation for the universe for sending me flowers to appreciate, more came to me and from an unpredictable source. My boyfriend wasn’t in the habit of having the florist send me bouquets of flowers. It wasn’t a holiday- and even if it had been, flowers were not usually in the picture.
What can you manifest into your experience right now by just loosening up some bitter associations and feeling like anything around you is intended for you to enjoy? What can you attract by simply feeling the ease and gratitude of its beauty in your presence? Flowers may seem like a small manifestation to you, but to me it was something that was blocked for a long time, and the process to manifest all things (no matter how big and important it seems) is the same. Feel yourself into being the recipient of the good you desire. Be that version of you and it will show up – and if you’re not home, then they will even call and bring it where you are. You are always in the right place at the right time. See yourself as receiving your good.
If you’re thinking about the law of attraction in terms of the movie The Secret, it might not be an automatic connection to being brazen or brave… courageous in any way. However, once you get your hands into this manifesting stuff… creating with intention… you will likely encounter some moments when you realize the importance of brazen impudence. That’s what Neville Goddard called it, anyway. It’s not necessarily being brave or courageous. It means putting aside grasshopper thinking and becoming a giant. Do you want your old limiting sense of “deserving” – your old I AM – to keep you from who you are as your true nature? Then you must admit what you actually wish for, and stop leveling it down a notch just to make it feel more believable. You must rise to the state of the consciousness of your desire (which some of you Abraham Hicks students might know as “raising your vibration to the frequency of the thing desired”)
Take what you ACTUALLY want and become the version of you who is already naturally experiencing that. Don’t minimize it because it seems too big. Don’t negotiate it. Know who you are and you will know that at your command your wish is fulfilled. To compromise our full wish for any logical reasoning is to miss the mark. The dreamer in you is God. Honor him and you and do not settle. It is natural to experience exactly what you wished for. It is not selfish. It is part of the whole expansion of the universe, and it will have a benefit to the orchestration of the manifestations of many other people, most of which you are not even aware of.
Approach your feeling state with the brazen impudence it deserves and requires.
Within this field of work, there are as many approaches to manifesting as there are people. It can be tempting to fall into the “they’re not doing it right” club. We can feel like we’ve found the right way, the best way, the only way. We may feel like anyone who is utilizing any technique that you find useless is wasting their time and doesn’t get it. My thoughts are: Don’t fall into this trap. The moment we put down others is the moment we lose sight that everyone is unique and needs to approach things in unique ways.
For example, many come to Neville Goddard and insist that now that they understand his teachings, the rest are laughable. They might put down visions boards, affirmations, and journaling. Yet, Neville Goddard’s teachings are packed with the value of feeling into “I am”, which is the first affirmation of existence. He encouraged repetition as he said that it will feel foreign at first but with repetition the feeling of naturalness can be achieved. He didn’t speak of vision boards of course, but to keep an image in your mind’s eye is not contrary to keeping it in front of your physical eyes. You CAN benefit from it. Journaling is not necessary, but Neville didn’t discourage the writing. It is not in the writing that the power lies, but in the feeling… the state of consciousness you enter and stay. Writing does that sometimes.
Another example: first person present tense is how to clothe your desire in your consciousness. So, sometimes self-proclaimed experts kock down the use of “I will be” instead of “I am” or “it would be nice…” instead of “it’s nice…”. I see where this is coming from, but EVERYBODY IS WHERE THEY ARE and MANIFESTS FROM THERE. Didn’t mean to yell there 😄
For someone who feels very far from the relaization of their desire, to ask them to claim it in one single step and to become it is not altogether useful and can be discouraging and lead to more disbelief. However, they can get there relatively quickly by affirming first “it would be nice if…” Heck, if they’re visually motivated, a vision board is certainly not a waste of time. Is it necessary? Goodness, no. Your mind is all there is when it comes to manifesting, and you are doing it day in and day out… yet you are also looking at things around you all the time, maybe affirming the opposite of what you want, and maybe writing actual journal entries about disappointment and yearning. Switching these things are part of “becoming the new man”.
What I really wanted to express in this moment is that as much as “holier than thou” is tacky and not true, neither is “righter than thou”, especially when there is not one right or wrong way to experience a change in consciousness. It instead screams intolerance. And intolerance is in many ways the opposite of allowing… it is pushing against something someone else chooses, because you think everyone should be doing things the way you choose, not realizing that everyone has a very unique way of remembering that their consciousness is the only reality.
Be kind. Be allowing of others and their chosen processes. Everything, including these teachings, come to us at the perfect time. Applaud others for their enthusiasm and commitment… for their perseverance. See lovingly for all.
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If you have done some research on the law of attraction, then you may already know that things will happen as you expect them to, meaning that if you expect something to be hard, it will be. Conversely, if you believe something will be easy, it is. There’s a matter of resistance here. The actual fact that you think it will be difficult creates circumstances so that your experience will be difficult. This is what resistance is. When we do not feel ease – a lightness – on a certain aim, then it is because we have resistance of some sort. You may say that we are occupying a state of some sort of resistance.
If you know Neville Goddard (or me), you’re probably no stranger to the “reasoning is only the interference” approach. If you have a wish, and you are conscious that logically that there must be a very specific process in order to achieve this wish, then you are occupying a state of resistance. You are not seeing your wish as an actual fact, but as a future possibility based on a multitude of conditions. You might worry about these conditions all day and night. You may feel as though you need to figure out every step of the process in order to “responsibly” ensure your manifestation comes through.
However, if we take a step back we will see that we are trying to apply human laws to circumstances that are not governed by human laws. It simply does not work that way. Our only job is the add our consciousness to the state desired. If you know the state which you desire, and you know how that state feels, then you must feel love and appreciation towards that state. You must enter that state of consciousness and love it as a fact.
I was having some Baci chocolates today (my favorite!), and the little love note read- “Nothing is difficult when you love” -Marcus Tullius Cicero.
Add the intoxicating effect of love to any equation, and it is a pleasure. Imagine yourself already living that life you want, and the circumstances will reveal themselves to make the most pleasing journey to manifesting your aim. What seems to others to be a daunting task will be a fulfilling, joyous process for you. You will know what you need to know, when you need to know it. The resources will be there in perfect timing. It will be light and enjoyable if you decide it is. You will see the unfolding that you prepare yourself to see. When you love your work, it is not really difficult. You work, you create, you serve, you put in time and certain efforts, but it does not feel hard overall. When you are not in a state of love, then everything will be annoying and difficult and a hassle. The same goes for relationships. If you are in love, nothing is difficult. Love carries you in a way that keeps you above the struggle.
Before I end this message for today, I’d like to offer two more quotes from Cicero that you will appreciate:
“Like associates with like.”
”The pursuit, even of the best things, ought to be calm and tranquil.”
”This is the truth: as from a fire aflame thousands of sparks come forth, even so from the Creator an infinity of beings have life and to him return again.”
I think I will write more on each of these three sayings on another day. They have inspired me and go hand in hand beautifully with the teachings of both Neville Goddard and Abraham Hicks. Have a wonderful day/night!
I just left a Facebook group that focuses strongly on using Neville Goddard’s teachings to manifest a relationship with a specific person. It doesn’t bother me when someone wants to attract a specific person. I know it can be done, and often is done. I also know that the clinging with insistence to one person, and not allowing yourself to see that it is first not the person, but the happiness, that you actually want, is a limiting concept that brings up desperate rage from those looking to do just that.
I’ve been in those shoes. I know what it is like to think “This man or no man.” Guess what. It wasn’t that man. That’s not because I was just wrong about the man. It was because I was living a life of melancholy in my imagination, and longing for that man was exactly what I had manifested in my feeling state. When I THEN opened myself to the feeling of truly living in the end… in the state of that happy relationship… a man who WASN’T that man came along and knocked the ball out of the park with our experiences together. I had been keeping this intensely wonderful relationship blocked from my experience because I was BEING the person who was longing for something I did not have. My I AM was keeping me in a state of having not, and my clinging to someone who I wanted to insist was the one… was a perfect match for that state.
Now, I’m not saying your man or woman is not the one. Yours may very well be the one who walks into your life in that perfect feeling when you simply enter the state of having that which you have desired. What I’d like to suggest is to hold lightly to the person and rejoice in the way they make you FEEL. Rejoice in a beautiful relationship for the sake of the satisfaction of it. Rejoice in being in that state, and when someone says “what if he’s not the one?” don’t throw yourself to the ground and defend yourself or feel the need to prove yourself or feel anything less than wonderful. Be light about it. When you are sure of your happiness in this relationship you have imagined, nothing will throw you off from it. You know your ideal man or woman is yours. There is no threat, and there is no fear of “this man or no man.”
Below I have included an excerpt from Neville Goddard on insisting on a specific person. You can have anything you want, and know what what you actually want is happiness.
…Always go to the end. Dwell in the end, and you will hurt no one. But if you try to devise the means, you are, well, messing the whole thing up. I have had people say to me, “You know, I want that man, and no other man.”
I said, “No, you don’t; you want to be happily married. You don’t want that man or no man.”
“Oh, yes, that man or no man.”
Then, of course, this always shocks them.
I say, “If he dropped dead right now, would you want to be married?”
“Well, he isn’t going to drop…”
“I didn’t ask you that. If he dropped dead right now, or if he is right this very moment accused of being the world’s greatest thief or murderer, do you still want him”
“Well, now, why ask those questions, Neville? I want that man.”
But, you see, it isn’t that man. They want to be happily married. I have gone to so many weddings where it was either that man or none, and it wasn’t “that man”! And they are embarrassed when they see me standing in the aisle, because it had to be “that man or no man,” and here it isn’t that man at all. And they walk down [the aisle] – they are happy with their new mate, but a little sheepish as they pass by because they know I know he was not the man.