“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” -Frank Zappa
So Frank Zappa might come off a bit harsh. It doesn’t mean he’s wrong. This is actually incredibly true and sums up the law of attraction pretty well. We make our own choices every moment. We have room to experiment and play around, so there shouldn’t be as much pressure as we sometimes create for ourselves- but yes, we get what we deserve. We are responsible for the job we have, the company we work for, the spouse we chose… we can play the blame game left and right, but when we take 100% responsibility, then a world of potential opens up and nothing else matters. In Jack Canfield’s Success Principles, number one out of sixty-four principles is Take 100% Responsibility. Without doing this, there is no real foundation for all the rest of the principles to achieve your greatest potential. Did someone say integrity?
This is probably the best thing about what we can take from Zappa’s words: Deserving it doesn’t have to mean being doomed to stay that way. The moment you decide to listen to yourself and start developing your own intuition, things start to change. There is always opportunity to shift your reality and boring miserable lives are really only a few vibes away from something pretty freakin’ great. The catch is, you’ve got to believe that.
“What about respect?” you might say. “Isn’t is respectful to listen to our elders and authorities because they have life experience?”
Let’s see. Whose life experience do they have? Their own! From their own perspective! They will have many wise things to share. However, telling you what to do without advising you to listen ultimately to your own guidance is a recipe for this guy in his swivel chair. Now if you want to be that guy in the swivel chair, then follow in his footsteps. Maybe that is what you want and it excites you. But if you don’t like swivel chairs or cubicles or offices of any kind, then would you take advice from a wise person who is currently working in (and highly values) office or executive work?
Most people don’t work with a coach, and that’s no excuse to not be your true self and make choices based on your unique perspective. Your true self is the best coach around, and when you work with a life coach, the good ones point you inward to your inner coach. Nobody can tell you what the best choice is for you in your own specific life. We show you how to develop and strengthen the intuition to learn how to listen to yourself. Not someone else who has a well-meaning but biased and possibly completely misleading idea of what is best for you.
You deserve to play your own game in life!