Depression and the Law of Attraction

What’s In A Decision cont’d

What’s In A Decision?

When we say you need to make that decision, what does decision mean to you?
I found it interesting that as a society, we make a decision generally implying that we “are going to do” something.  Or, that we “are going to take action”.  Soon.  We have made the decision to start.

And so, when it comes to metaphysical advice such as decide what you want, decide to be that person, decide to live in the reality you prefer…  that really implies that we have decided and in that moment, it is done.  Poof, complete, already shifted, new reality, boom, and so it is.  From then on, anything around you echoing the old is what seems out of place and does not bother us anymore because it is just not our reality anymore.  When you accept this and grasp its simplicity and realize that this is really the difference that changes suffering from lack into ease and experiencing your desire in emotional and physical manifestation… then go and try to convince others and see if they will believe you  🙂

Understanding Relationships Through The Law Of Attraction


Thirteenth century poet Rumi did not use the term Law of Attraction.  Yet, he understood the very essence of metaphysical laws and principles.  The quote above is something that would get a different reaction depending in which scenario it is used.  Among best friends during a good time, they would quickly agree.  Well, try saying it to someone you can’t stand… or someone who can’t stand you.  If you can flash these words through your mind in such circumstances, then you have harnessed the timeless power of the Law of Attraction.

We are all different versions of one another.  We are parts of the same whole, and as parts, we are also the whole.  When you look at someone in a moment of frustration- in a moment of resentment and desperation- there is one question to ask.  How is this a reflection of me?  What am I believing about myself that is showing up to me as this person?

In our moments of deepest hurt and offense, accept that it is our subconscious mind that is bringing up these situations with these people as an indicator of what is going on inside ourselves.  That is the only answer.  To understand the root belief or paradigm that the situation is tied to might take some digging, but not very much.  Meridian tapping or EFT can bring this to the surface in a matter of minutes.  For what seems like the deep hurt- a relationship that has been suffering for long, where reconciliation looks impossible and communication useless- turn inward and allow the true causation to present itself.  Causation is always a thought or belief, and once the cause surfaces, it no longer bears power over you or your relationships.


Experiment: Incorporating doTerra Essential Oil Into Wellness Habits

I’ve been big on raving to friends about the high quality extracts at  They make alcohol free, bio-chelated extracts that are pure and effective.  When it comes to herbal supplements, they are my go-to, largely because their products are offered in liquid form (I’m not much of a pill-popper).

Last weekend, I was invited to a doTerra party, hosted by one of my mom-friends.  The timing was right (or divine, as Florence Scovel Shinn might have said), as I hadn’t seen this friend in a while, and there was also potential in learning about some holistic goodies.  So, I showed up.

It was actually pretty fun, and although I’d never been to a tupperware-party-sort-of-deal, this was a cool little affair.  Even a little more productive than expected.

The “Wellness Consultant” we met is Janine Sabin (you can click on her name for her website).  We heard way too much information about specific oils and blends to possibly remember it all, but we did plenty of sampling and got lists with info to take home.

*Drumroll please*

I decided to start my doTerra oil-owning experience with “Elevation: Joyful Blend”.  I figure, if there’s one essential oil to start incorporating into my life coaching practice, it would be this.  After all, raising your vibration is the gateway to great things to come.

Truth be told, I have been having lots of momentum and confidence lately already- without sniffing any oils.  At the same time, scents are vibration, and our sense of smell is the translating of that vibration, as our sense of taste translates the vibration of foods, as does hearing translate sounds.  I touched a fraction of a drop’s worth onto my palm and took a sniff.  It didn’t immediately seem to trigger any happy feelings, but I was ok with that.  When I got home, I used one drop of it diluted with some coconut oil and used it in a massage for my boyfriend.  He did really like the scent, and seemed to feel the uplifting effect quicker than I did.  That might have been a biased opinion since he was getting a nice little massage, but he did honestly like the smell of it.

There’s one thing I’ve noticed since then.  I have been maintaining my confidence in multiple endeavors and it feels like the threshold of positivity has remained.  It’s not even so much of an effort-ed positivity.  I just feel like I’ve reached a level that is effortlessly consistent.  Yes, this was already in the works before this oil came into my life, and at the same time… the fact that it came along now, means to me that there is some sort of synchronicity there.  Did I need to spend fifty bucks to raise my vibration?  No.  Am I glad I did?  Yes.  I’m glad there are more go-to tools out there to assist in the process of reaching that frequency.  Consistent use is recommended, but I wouldn’t go crazy about it.  A sniff here and there is pretty potent and combined with all the great things we know about elevating without any outer tools, this is a nice little supplement that I kinda dig.

Is the Law of Attraction WITCHCRAFT???

If I told you that when you want something, you should visualize it in your mind, live in that world, ignore current reality, and fall asleep “chanting” phrases that will brainwash your mind into magically bringing it into physical life… wouldn’t you think I’m a little off my rocker?  Or… delusional?  Or maybe… a witch?

Let’s take a look at this.  IS the Law of Attraction WITCHCRAFT?  Is it paganism?  Is it atheism?  Is it… a scam?  Is the Law of Attraction a scam?  I mean, those people in The Secret did seem a little weird.  How can anyone be that happy really, and how would they be able to become prosperous so EASILY and have the audacity to sit there and let us think that we can have anything we want?

How dare they play with our hearts this way?!  How dare they mislead the young and the old by saying that if we change the way we think that we can change the circumstances we are in?  Change physical things?  Is quantum physics even a legit science?  Wait, what is a metaphysician?  They do spells or something, I’ve heard…  that’s what I read somewhere online and my cousin’s best friend said she knows for sure because her friend knows someone who says they “use” the Law of Attraction and use this method where they pretend to leave their body and enter another person’s visual perspective and hypnotize them remotely into falling in love with them.  So yeah, the Law of Attraction is a complete scam.  Or whatever.  Just stay away from it.

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The Law of Attraction is not witchcraft, my friends.  The Law of Attraction is not a tool, not a process, and not a belief.  It is not a religion, and it is not atheism.  Rather, it is the practical and all-encompassing principle that allows us to experience the highest form of spirituality.  It is the Universe’s (God’s) gift to us so that everything flows in contrast and harmony.  It is what uses us as influential particles of the Universe, it is what allows us to live as a reflection of God.  It is the vehicle through which our experiences come into play, and though we will never (and do not ever have to) understand exactly the complexity of how everything falls in place, we do have the capability to understand its simple basis.  It is only this simple basis that we do not “apply” to our life or situations, but understand and become conscious of in order to serve us and our purpose in life.

Considering that the Law of Attraction has existed since anything we have record of has ever existed, it is easier to see how countless religions, anti-religions, spiritual teachings, cultures, and corporations alike have incorporated aspects of metaphysical laws including the Law of Attraction- whether or not they are aware of it.

Nowadays, a success coach, a minister, a politician, a yogi, a Buddhist monk, the pope, a billionaire, a witch, a chiropractor, an artist and a philosopher will each likely be teaching some form of the Law of Attraction.  Keep calm, folks.  Hype is what not only drives traffic to websites, but gets rumors spread and misinforms a bunch of folks who could use some truth.  But then again, when you are aligned with truth, you will receive it no matter what 😉


Who Do You Ultimately Listen To When You Need Advice? YOURSELF!

“If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” -Frank Zappa

So Frank Zappa might come off a bit harsh.  It doesn’t mean he’s wrong.  This is actually incredibly true and sums up the law of attraction pretty well.  We make our own choices every moment.  We have room to experiment and play around, so there shouldn’t be as much pressure as we sometimes create for ourselves- but yes, we get what we deserve.  We are responsible for the job we have, the company we work for, the spouse we chose… we can play the blame game left and right, but when we take 100% responsibility, then a world of potential opens up and nothing else matters.  In Jack Canfield’s Success Principles, number one out of sixty-four principles is Take 100% Responsibility.  Without doing this, there is no real foundation for all the rest of the principles to achieve your greatest potential.  Did someone say integrity?

This is probably the best thing about what we can take from Zappa’s words:  Deserving it doesn’t have to mean being doomed to stay that way.  The moment you decide to listen to yourself and start developing your own intuition, things start to change.  There is always opportunity to shift your reality and boring miserable lives are really only a few vibes away from something pretty freakin’ great.  The catch is, you’ve got to believe that.

“What about respect?” you might say.  “Isn’t is respectful to listen to our elders and authorities because they have life experience?”

Let’s see.  Whose life experience do they have?  Their own!  From their own perspective!  They will have many wise things to share.  However, telling you what to do without advising you to listen ultimately to your own guidance is a recipe for this guy in his swivel chair.  Now if you want to be that guy in the swivel chair, then follow in his footsteps.  Maybe that is what you want and it excites you.  But if you don’t like swivel chairs or cubicles or offices of any kind, then would you take advice from a wise person who is currently working in (and highly values) office or executive work?

Most people don’t work with a coach, and that’s no excuse to not be your true self and make choices based on your unique perspective.  Your true self is the best coach around, and when you work with a life coach, the good ones point you inward to your inner coach.  Nobody can tell you what the best choice is for you in your own specific life.  We show you how to develop and strengthen the intuition to learn how to listen to yourself.  Not someone else who has a well-meaning but biased and possibly completely misleading idea of what is best for you.

You deserve to play your own game in life!

Summing Up Faith and Action

Man must prepare for the thing he has asked for, when there isn’t the slightest sign of it in sight.

— Florence Scovel Shinn

This is what I intend to remind you today.  When you have asked in your heart – even with so much as no words – prepare for its arrival so that there is room for it when it arrives.  This goes for the love, the relationship, the material objects, the health, the wealth.  Your job is to create the environment for what it is that you have asked.  This is a powerful act of faith- to make room in your physical lifestyle and in your mental and emotional state of being.  This opens the doors and welcomes it into your experience!

I hope you have all been having a cozy autumn.  If there are any questions or anything in particular you would like for me to address, I am happy to do so.  Just ask!

Resist Not Evil

How can you look at the “evils” that are presented in news, media, and our own communities on different levels and not resist it?  How can we see it and not fight to resolve it?

You cannot resolve evil by resisting it.  You cannot put your energy into the evil and ever make it go away.  It doesn’t work that way and it never has.  Resisting is revenge- it does not concern me whether it is for a “right, just cause” or for the “principle”.

The law of attraction enthusiasts know this well as the saying “what you resist persists,” so eloquently worded by Carl Jung.  When you push against something, in this case something that makes you feel uneasy and upset, you are contributing many fold to its existence.  We can see this in things that seem big and things that seem small.

If you find out someone has been gossiping about you- someone who you didn’t expect it from- it is hurtful.  You feel that you have done nothing to deserve it, and the person is doing it out of their own insecurity or jealousy.  Actually, we don’t give them that much credit.  Oftentimes, we quickly label and call names.  Of course they deserve it!  They are making up or spreading lies about me and they don’t even know me!

We spend days, weeks, months, years having quiet conversations with them in our own minds- what we would say and how we would say it.  How we would give this person a piece of our mind.  We set a scene and place ourselves in there as the victim and imagine putting that person in their place for even daring to make us look bad.

Oh my.  We do this even more than we realize.  Neville Goddard has addressed how people have completely turned the situation around by taking his advice on changing the inner conversation with the person and envisioning a more ideal, peaceful scenario- as though it is no longer an issue, and that the person shows us love and we do the same to them.  This is true.  All of it is true.  Be mindful of the conversations in your own mind.  They are creating your experiences.

What about the poverty and the hunger around the world?  Shouldn’t we condemn those governments who are so careless and corrupt as to allow their people to go hungry in inhumane living conditions?

Take a look at that sentence I just wrote.  How does it feel when you read it?  Does it feel good?  What happens to your spirit as you take in this controversial topic?  It feels overwhelming, sad, hopeless, helpless, impossible and uncomfortable.  So how do we approach things that make us feel that way?  If we can’t resist them, revenge against them, and make glory by conquering them, what do we DO?

What we’re looking at here is contrast.  The contrast in this example is hunger and poverty.  Our higher selves do not know hunger and poverty, so when we witness it or hear about it, or experience it, it makes us feel bad because we see it, lower our vibration in response to it, and an inner struggle happens where we feel compelled to do something about it.

This is where the answer lies.  Since it feels so uncomfortable, we turn to its opposite.  Abundance of nourishment and a comfortable lifestyle.  This is where the answer lies.  Our job is to immediately turn to the solution.  There is no solution in the problem itself- it is the problem that activates the solution and our role is to focus on that solution, first as the vibration of how it feels and what it’s like, then to allow it to expand through us and the universe to contribute to a ripple effect that replaces the lack of good, with good.

If Jesus said “resist not evil”, it was not only because evil will expand if we do so.  It is because evil is allowed by us if we resist it.  Evil cannot exist if we do not validate it by resisting it.  Evil is the lack of love, and filling our hearts with love and understanding, and basing our thoughts and actions on love will create that shift in consciousness that is all that is required to resolve the things we have seen that make us feel uncomfortable.

What is Holistic Life Coaching? Is it Therapy?

Time to answer some of your questions!

Soooo, let’s start with one of the most basic and popular questions I get asked:  What is life coaching?  Is it like therapy?  What is holistic life coaching?

Life coaching is a process and a partnership.  Your life coach does not teach you how to live your life nor tells you what to do.  In fact, it is a lot more about gaining clarity on how the mind works, clearing blocks and limitations, and getting from where you are you where you want to be.

This is my approach to what life coaching or mind coaching or personal coaching is all about:


Your first step is gaining clarity on what your goals are, and the process of how to achieve them.

Your life coach keeps you focused on your goals- “where you want to be”.

You are committed to your success and maintain a sense of motivation.

Your life coach encourages you and sheds some perspective on limitation and doubts.

You are doing the work, which includes reprogramming your mind to be set up for success.

Your life coach shows you how to do this and is your accountability partner.

Life coaching is not therapy.  A healthy mind is the ideal starting point in a life coaching relationship.  Can you benefit from life coaching if you have some issues that you feel you need to overcome?  Yes, because when you retrain your mind and shift your mental paradigms, a lot of things fall into place.  Each individual is at a different place, and a consultation is a great way for a coach to evaluate if you could benefit from working with a personal coach at this time.

Some people who get a life coach are looking for some direction, which is okay.  A good life coach will help them learn how to gain clarity and tune in to their own intuition.  Others know what they want and understand the strong benefits of working with a life coach to achieve more success in various areas of their lives.  The most successful people have life coaches.  In fact, they sometimes have multiple life coaches for specific areas of their life.

Let’s be perfectly honest here.  Life coaching might be viewed as a luxury.  It is an intense and personal process that is all about you and your desires.  Not everybody is ready for this experience.  You are investing time, commitment, and money in your own transformation and focusing on the realization and fruition of your most compelling goals.  You don’t need a life coach to maintain an average lifestyle.  The question is: Do you want an average lifestyle?  I’m not only referring to financial success here- I’m referring to the level of your own happiness and success in life- whatever that may mean for you.  Nobody can decide for you that you need a certain amount of money, or a certain quality of relationships and health in your life to be happy.  Nor can anyone tell you what is enough, or that settling for what you already have (a misconception about gratitude) is a virtue in any way whatsoever.  It is you who decides to be happy and to live the life that you already created in your mind throughout many years that has yet to be given a chance to manifest into your tangible world.

Holistic life coaching means that the life coach understands the metaphysical connection to everything we see as physically focused beings.  Our mind, body and spirit are not separately functioning tools, but they are all one and do influence each other in ways that are essential to understand in order to maintain balance and true happiness.  We are not in the business of treating symptoms.  Life coaches are part of your transformational journey as a complete person.  When you understand this, then you are likely a good candidate for life coaching, and you will have a strong advantage over those who have not yet understood the value in personal coaching.  Do you need to be “spiritual” in order to work with a life coach?  No.  Being honest and open are the basics and will take you far.

Thanks for the questions- I have many more Q & A’s coming soon!

A Moment of Synchronicity Between the Physical and Non-Physical (HubPages)

7974395_f260Here’s an old article from my HubPages account about an experience worth remembering for us self-development junkies 🙂


Are You Desperately Trying to Attract Your Ex Back Into Your Life?

Alright, so you are in a passionate upheaval to get your ex back.  It’s okay.  I’ve been there.  I’ll just admit it.  You have done illogical things for the sake of love and are at the point where you don’t even care if you look stupid, lose your pride and dignity all at once.  You want your heart to be full and you want only that person with whom you first felt that exhilarating emotion.  You don’t want to let it go.  It is your hope for true love and nobody can be better for you.  In fact, you will sacrifice your own dreams to support theirs and just being in their life is all you want. As much criticism as you are getting from your friends and family who may know about your love quest, you are going through something that you need to go through, whatever the reason maybe be.  Honestly, you don’t need to know the reason.  Get it out of your system and do the stupid things.  This experience is part of your expansion. Are you going to get your ex back?  That depends on so many things.  Maybe yes and maybe no.  More importantly, do you (your higher self) truly want to re-embark on a relationship journey that is born of such desperation?  I can guarantee you that if your ex partner comes into your life again at this point in time- from where you are vibrating– it is not going to be that joyful bliss that you are truly seeking. Let’s step back and look at this from a broader perspective.  You want to be happy.  Right?  That is why you are after your ex- because you have convinced yourself that doing so is going to make you so, so happy.  And that’s okay.  Then what?  Still feeling down?  Feeling the lack of that very happiness?  It can’t come that way. Give yourself the gift of centering and see if you can accept that the basis of why you want your ex back is to be happy… to love and be loved.  To feel that feeling you are associating with it.  Even if you want to resist what I’m about to say, I’m going to put it out there because on a higher level, you know this already: The person is a physical manifestation of that feeling.  The actual person is not what you are truly seeking.  This hurts, I know.  The great news is that your ex might be it!  I wouldn’t rule it out. However, if you can bring yourself from “I want his/her love, I want his/her love,” to a place of “I want love (hopefully it’s his/hers but with whomever it will be the most awesome experience).”  This alone is a huge step toward the bliss you seek.  Don’t tell yourself you can’t have your ex, and don’t insist that he/she is the only one who you can experience happiness with.  Opening yourself that much takes little practice and moves you far toward the manifestation!

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